There is a situation that is underestimated as “love butterfly, love bug” … It is actually not like that… It really is not. In fact, because it is not so, real personal development is a subject that many stay away from and sneer… It is taken lightly, but in fact, on the contrary, it turns people into what they really are.
Think about it;
In the name of being a good person, you haven’t objected to many issues for a lifetime and you have always “conformed”. You were one of those who had to mature early. What a harmonious and mature person you are at home, in the family, at school, and work have been praised and applauded many times. Of course, in good faith…
You wake up one day, thinking that you are doing this sincerely, and you realize that you are doing it to be “loved” and “approved”. You do not object to many things that happened just to let some people love and approve of you more… You do not see disrespect; you do not even realize that your heart is broken… While people cling tightly to their “victim” stories and complain, you consider your experience as not lived, you spoil empathy…
Later…
To be able to admit that you always feel guilty because of the memories of your elders, not you.
Living with the buzz that keeps circling inside you for days, weeks, months…
To look at many records like “I am not loved”, “I will be loved if I do…”, to observe them, and to deeply feel the storms of emotions created by observing…
And then the observed start to change; to love yourself again (with every meaning it contains) …
The sun rises again…
Afterwards…
Comprehending without any “guilt” that you are not guilty, you are not responsible, you do not have to endear yourself to anyone, you do not have to open your doors wide to those who stay away from you and yes, to those who simply do not love you, you do not need to say “Please love me” to those who do not love you, it is not a shame to say stop to those who violate your borders, even in good faith, you do not owe anybody for anything…
Understanding that instead of meeting meaninglessly, sometimes not meeting for a while is actually “love” …
Thanking God very, very much for everything you have been, done, experienced, and made you …
Knowing that being a “butterfly of love” is not about being a fan of anybody, but embracing those who come while standing tall, confidently in their center, and being able to say “thank you” to those who do not want to come without getting angry, offended, and with love …
So, in short, nowadays….
I stand up from a place where it hurts …
what do you think?